Shifting from Fear to Love

A simple and useful practice

We all have moments when fear takes over

Sometimes it’s loud—doubt, overwhelm, that sinking feeling that we’re stuck.
Other times it’s sneaky—subtle thoughts that whisper:

"I should have it all figured out by now."
"What if I never get where I want to be?"
"Why is this so hard?"

Fear contracts. It keeps us small. It keeps us swirling.
But we don’t have to stay there.

I want to (re)share a simple process I call The Love Ladder—a way to shift your thoughts and emotions from fear to love, from contraction to expansion.

How It Works: Moving from Fear to Love

EXAMPLE 1: Personhood (Your Own Growth & Self-Doubt)

Let’s say you’ve been thinking: “I don’t really get to live the life I dream of.”

I fear… I’ll always feel stuck. I don’t know how to move forward.
I judge… I should be further along. I should have figured this out by now.
What if (down)… I never get beyond this point? What if I’m incapable of change?
What if (neutral)… Maybe this is just a season. Growth isn’t linear.
What if (up)… What if I’m exactly where I need to be? What if this is unfolding perfectly?
I accept… I’m learning. This is part of the process.
I trust… Myself, my path, the unknown.
I love… Myself. My courage. The unfolding of my life.

New belief: I am evolving. I am aligning. Life is unfolding miraculously.

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EXAMPLE 2: Parenting (When Things Feel Hard)

Now, let’s apply this to parenting. Maybe you’ve been thinking: “My child should listen the first time.”

I fear… If they don’t listen now, they never will. I must be doing something wrong.
I judge… I should be more patient. They should know better.
What if (down)… What if I’m failing as a parent? What if this is all my fault?
What if (neutral)… What if this is just a phase? What if my child is learning in their own way?
What if (up)… What if this is an invitation for me to lead with trust and connection?
I accept… Parenting is growth—for both of us.
I trust… That I am learning. That my child is, too.
I love… Myself. My child. This messy, beautiful process.

New belief: I am growing alongside my child. We are learning together.

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This process works for everything—parenting, relationships, self-doubt, big life decisions.

If this resonates, join me tomorrow, 2.27.25 for our Humanhood Happening live call at 12p ET on where we’ll walk through The Love Ladder together so you can apply it to what’s present in your life right now.

Come as you are. No pressure, just space to shift.

With love and clarity,
Carrie